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Q: What’s the best way to put on a boutonniere on the groom and the groomsmen?

So many people are challenged with the task of pinning on a boutonniere. Who’s job is it anyways?! The florist’s? The mom’s? The bride’s? Or, the best man? The truth is, all of the above.

You open a lovely white box and see these tiny little works of art so carefully chosen and bound together to adorn your favorite men. You may notice that there is sometimes not only one pin, but two! You scan the room looking for a candidate to delegate the task of pinning on these little flowers. Now YOU can be that person!

I will often put one longer pin that has a pearl at the tip with the more fancy boutonnieres because they are a bit heavier and thicker.  A long thicker pin will assure that it will stay on all night long without turning upside down or falling off after the 120-150 hugs given that night. There are sometimes two pins in case one gets lost or you decide you want to use both to double-secure your boutonniere. There are two ways of approaching this method.

One: Hold the boutonniere up to the left breast area of the suit or tux, flowers facing you. The placement should be about 4″ from the top of the guy’s shoulder. You may want to give it a slight tilt depending on how the design looks or fits on the man’s lapel. Start to pin on the boutonniere by popping the pin through the underneath side of the lapel. Move the pin up and over the top of the stems and out the other side. When you come out the other side, you’ll want to make sure it’s going back under the fabric so you don’t have a pin sticking out.

Two: The other option is to pin on the boutonniere in a downward fashion. I recommend this way because it does not show any part of the silver pin. Hold the boutonniere in place. Take your pin from behind the lapel, same as above. Run the pin down and through the stem of the flower and back out. The pin will remain on the underside of the lapel. It’s almost like you hook the midsection of the stem like a stitch. Or, like threading a vein for an IV. (My previous medical skills come in handy!)

Be careful when pinning on a boutonniere! The pins are sharp and can take a little muscle if there were any harder stems like brunia used. It’s good to hold the boutonniere at the bottom of the stems with your left hand while pinning with your right. This keeps the other fingers safe and out of the way.