Today we bring you a post from one of our favorite Betrothed’s Bros, Mr. Jason Weible of Blackbird Theatrical Services. Jason and his wife Kelly got married in Brooklyn last year, and ended up working with several of us here at BB, and they’ve been great supporters and friends ever since. So here’s his piece on the importance of proper lighting for a wedding. Super useful stuff! Read on, and be dazzled!
Hone the art of acceptance:
Your wedding day, like any other anticipated special occasion, is going to be flawed. You’re real people, not plastic toppers on a cake, and therefore, life will happen. Little and big things will go wrong. Expect them. Not in a pessimistic, why-is-life-so-unfair? way, but in a way that allows you to be fluid through the beauty, the highs, the quiet moments, and yes, even the disappointments.
Shift your expectations:
It is a day so anointed, so dreamed about and coveted, entire magazines revolve around it! The pressure is enormous. “THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE” is the not-so-subliminal newsfeed that wraps itself around your celebration. If it truly is the best day of your life, mazel tov! And if it’s a beautiful and messy and meaningful day that is like no other you’ve experienced, that’s not only okay, that is normal. Expect anything and everything, and know that what you end up with is a kaleidoscope of memories that is *your* wedding. One that is yours (and your spouse’s) alone.
Remember the endgame:
Stay connected to your partner and to what married life means to you. What do you want married life to feel like? What rituals do you want to create as newlyweds? What makes your relationship unique? Keep these goals alive and present. Create a vision board of your life as newlyweds or start hosting a monthly game night. Build the life that is yours – yours and your beloved’s; the one that stands strong long after the band plays its last song and you board the honeymoon flight back. Know, when you look at your mate, that you got the best gift of all.xo, Sam
Q: How do I not hire my florist’s daughter, a wedding photographer, without offending anyone?
Planning a wedding without offending someone is a feat next to impossible! In an ideal world, friends, family, and in this case vendors, would have only one goal: to support you and your fiancé in creating the wedding that reflects what matters most to you. Unfortunately, it rarely works that way – at least one person’s feathers will be ruffled along the way.
So how to handle an awkward situation with your florist? Thank her/him for letting you know their daughter is a wedding photographer and if you already have a photographer lined up, say just that (or if you haven’t, “stretching the truth” to avoid hurt feelings is completely acceptable) and that you’d be happy to pass the photographer daughter’s info along to other engaged couples you know. That is truly all you should have to say; hopefully your florist is professional enough to leave it at that. If you’re still feeling pressured, recognize it as her/his issue, and do your best to let it go.
There are plenty of opportunities to be stressed in the wedding planning process – thankfully there are also plenty of opportunities to be have fun and celebrate along the way. The more of the uncomfortable situations you nip in the bud (no floral puns intended), the more you can enjoy the beauty of what you and your spouse-to-be are creating.
A few weeks ago we shared a shot from Diana and Scott’s DUMBO engagement shoot and today we are excited to share a peek at their beautiful Picnic House wedding. It was such a wonderful day in Prospect Park. Carissa, Rebecca and I had a blast working with them. We hope you enjoy this post and congratulations to Diana and Scott!
Today I will have the pleasure of working with the lovely Rebecca Shepherd and Carissa Templeton on Diana and Scott’s Brooklyn wedding. I’m also excited to get to work with Bethany Pickard and Naturally Delicious, Kerry Crawford and Scratch Weddings. Obviously this is going to be a pretty amazing day!!!
Congrats Scott and Diana, and wishing a happy wedding day to all the lovely couples tying the knot on this lovely spring day.
Uh-oh! Your wedding is (insert number) of weeks or months away and you are not happy with the way you look and feel right now. You’re overwhelmed with all the other details of wedding planning. Work is crazy. There’s no time in your day. How possibly are you going to get in shape in time for your wedding?
I’ve heard this story many, many times. And, having had the privilege of helping hundreds of people out of that or a similar predicament, I can tell you this: you’re going to be OK!
All you need is a commitment to making a few adjustments in your mindset and to carving out about two hours per week from your schedule.
Below is a summary of the methodology that has helped hundreds of my clients transform their lives and their bodies. Everything boils down to the decisions you make at each moment and each day about how to think, eat, and move. We’re all unique and this methodology is a framework within which I create very specific plans for each of my clients based on their personal goals. But, if you apply it to your own life – even generally – you will experience positive changes physically, mentally, and emotionally.
For more detail or for help applying this in time for your wedding, my team and I are happy to sit down for a free consultation.
Your goal is not just to get married but to spend as long and as full a life as possible with your future spouse. Commit to making positive, lasting changes that will create a lifetime of happiness.
A little of something beneficial is always better than nothing at all. Stop waiting for the perfect time to begin and start making small steps toward your goal. For example:
- Take 30 minutes today and go for a walk or a light jog. If you can’t spare 30 mins, try 20 minutes or even 10.
- Replace all beverages other than coffee and tea (if you’re a coffee/tea drinker) with water or sparkling water.
- Eat vegetables or fruit instead of bread, rice, or pasta.
If drinking more water and eating fruits and vegetables in place of most of your simple carbohydrates is too daunting, start with one serving per day. If you do nothing else I’m about to tell you, just making the above changes will begin to shrink your waistline within a 7-10 days – if not sooner. Just DO SOMETHING!!!!
Replace the words “diet” and “exercise” with “eating” and “movement.” You need to eat the right foods most of the time and move your body safely and regularly to live and thrive. Period.
Follow these suggestions and you will have more energy, less stress, better sleep, and a happier state of mind. And, sure enough, with those things will come a stronger, leaner, fitter body.
Eat four to six times per day – You can eat as much as you want at any given meal, but you need to be able to eat that exact same amount of food two to three hours later.
Eat minimally processed foods without a lot of added sugars
Eat fruits and vegetables throughout the day
Drink more water and eliminate calories-containing beverages
Consume lean protein throughout the day
Eat starchy foods (simple carbs like breads and pasta) early in the day or right after exercise
Eat whatever you want sometimes – Pick a total of three meals (ideally during the same day) each week where you don’t think about what your eating. Just go for it. Remember the part about eating the right things MOST of the time? That’s where this comes in.
Move at a comfortable pace as often as possible – Walk, jog, bike, swim, whatever. Just make sure your body is moving at least once per hour and every day.
Move heavy things two or three times per week – Whether weights, boxes, small children, or your own body, you simple must keep all those muscles engaged. 15-20 minutes is the minimum..
Move fast (or with high intensity) two or three times per week – Get that heart pumping (like when you need to walk up a flight of stairs or run for the bus) for 20-30 secs then take a break (long enough to be conversational again). Do that a 5-6 times in a row.
The below workout brings it all together. If you take care of the “moving at a comfortable pace” part on your own and do this workout three times per week (with at least a day of rest between workouts), your body will look and feel better than it ever has.
The key to this routine is taking very short breaks between exercises. Basically, only allow your self enough time to prepare for/transition to the next one. After you run through one circuit, take a slightly longer break. This will keep your heart rate up.
On the exercises with dumbells or cables, use the heaviest weight that you can lift repeatedly for 30-45 seconds. You want to be struggling for the last couple of seconds. If you don’t have a way to keep track of time, aim for 10-12 repetitions. If you don’t have access to any equipment, you can always use you’re own body weight or whatever’s around the house (books, rocks, soup cans, etc). And, of course, be sure to warm-up for 2-5 minutes and stretch for 5-10 minutes when you’re done.
|Movement||Options (Pick one from the list)||Time||Focus|
|Push||Push-up (vary grip each set: wide, narrow, shoulder width)||30-45 Secs||Major Muscle Groups|
|Pull||Row with cables, bands, or DBs||30-45 Secs|
|Squat/Lunge||Body Weight Squats||30-45 Secs|
|Repeat above for total of 3X|
|Plank||On toes or Knees||2 X 45-60 Secs||Core|
|Elbows/Hands on ball|
|Repeat above for total of 2X|
|Cardio Intervals||Burpees||20-30 Secs||Cardio-Vascular|
|Skier Swings (low impact)|
|Cardio Intervals||Burpees||20-30 Secs|
|Skier Swings (low impact)|