Today we bring you a post from one of our favorite Betrothed’s Bros, Mr. Jason Weible of Blackbird Theatrical Services. Jason and his wife Kelly got married in Brooklyn last year, and ended up working with several of us here at BB, and they’ve been great supporters and friends ever since. So here’s his piece on the importance of proper lighting for a wedding. Super useful stuff! Read on, and be dazzled!
Uh-oh! Your wedding is (insert number) of weeks or months away and you are not happy with the way you look and feel right now. You’re overwhelmed with all the other details of wedding planning. Work is crazy. There’s no time in your day. How possibly are you going to get in shape in time for your wedding?
I’ve heard this story many, many times. And, having had the privilege of helping hundreds of people out of that or a similar predicament, I can tell you this: you’re going to be OK!
All you need is a commitment to making a few adjustments in your mindset and to carving out about two hours per week from your schedule.
Below is a summary of the methodology that has helped hundreds of my clients transform their lives and their bodies. Everything boils down to the decisions you make at each moment and each day about how to think, eat, and move. We’re all unique and this methodology is a framework within which I create very specific plans for each of my clients based on their personal goals. But, if you apply it to your own life – even generally – you will experience positive changes physically, mentally, and emotionally.
For more detail or for help applying this in time for your wedding, my team and I are happy to sit down for a free consultation.
Your goal is not just to get married but to spend as long and as full a life as possible with your future spouse. Commit to making positive, lasting changes that will create a lifetime of happiness.
A little of something beneficial is always better than nothing at all. Stop waiting for the perfect time to begin and start making small steps toward your goal. For example:
- Take 30 minutes today and go for a walk or a light jog. If you can’t spare 30 mins, try 20 minutes or even 10.
- Replace all beverages other than coffee and tea (if you’re a coffee/tea drinker) with water or sparkling water.
- Eat vegetables or fruit instead of bread, rice, or pasta.
If drinking more water and eating fruits and vegetables in place of most of your simple carbohydrates is too daunting, start with one serving per day. If you do nothing else I’m about to tell you, just making the above changes will begin to shrink your waistline within a 7-10 days – if not sooner. Just DO SOMETHING!!!!
Replace the words “diet” and “exercise” with “eating” and “movement.” You need to eat the right foods most of the time and move your body safely and regularly to live and thrive. Period.
Follow these suggestions and you will have more energy, less stress, better sleep, and a happier state of mind. And, sure enough, with those things will come a stronger, leaner, fitter body.
Eat four to six times per day – You can eat as much as you want at any given meal, but you need to be able to eat that exact same amount of food two to three hours later.
Eat minimally processed foods without a lot of added sugars
Eat fruits and vegetables throughout the day
Drink more water and eliminate calories-containing beverages
Consume lean protein throughout the day
Eat starchy foods (simple carbs like breads and pasta) early in the day or right after exercise
Eat whatever you want sometimes – Pick a total of three meals (ideally during the same day) each week where you don’t think about what your eating. Just go for it. Remember the part about eating the right things MOST of the time? That’s where this comes in.
Move at a comfortable pace as often as possible – Walk, jog, bike, swim, whatever. Just make sure your body is moving at least once per hour and every day.
Move heavy things two or three times per week – Whether weights, boxes, small children, or your own body, you simple must keep all those muscles engaged. 15-20 minutes is the minimum..
Move fast (or with high intensity) two or three times per week – Get that heart pumping (like when you need to walk up a flight of stairs or run for the bus) for 20-30 secs then take a break (long enough to be conversational again). Do that a 5-6 times in a row.
The below workout brings it all together. If you take care of the “moving at a comfortable pace” part on your own and do this workout three times per week (with at least a day of rest between workouts), your body will look and feel better than it ever has.
The key to this routine is taking very short breaks between exercises. Basically, only allow your self enough time to prepare for/transition to the next one. After you run through one circuit, take a slightly longer break. This will keep your heart rate up.
On the exercises with dumbells or cables, use the heaviest weight that you can lift repeatedly for 30-45 seconds. You want to be struggling for the last couple of seconds. If you don’t have a way to keep track of time, aim for 10-12 repetitions. If you don’t have access to any equipment, you can always use you’re own body weight or whatever’s around the house (books, rocks, soup cans, etc). And, of course, be sure to warm-up for 2-5 minutes and stretch for 5-10 minutes when you’re done.
|Movement||Options (Pick one from the list)||Time||Focus|
|Push||Push-up (vary grip each set: wide, narrow, shoulder width)||30-45 Secs||Major Muscle Groups|
|Pull||Row with cables, bands, or DBs||30-45 Secs|
|Squat/Lunge||Body Weight Squats||30-45 Secs|
|Repeat above for total of 3X|
|Plank||On toes or Knees||2 X 45-60 Secs||Core|
|Elbows/Hands on ball|
|Repeat above for total of 2X|
|Cardio Intervals||Burpees||20-30 Secs||Cardio-Vascular|
|Skier Swings (low impact)|
|Cardio Intervals||Burpees||20-30 Secs|
|Skier Swings (low impact)|
Brooklyn Betrothed is pleased to feature Adam Mason, Founder, Musical Director and Bassist for the band 45 Riots, as our “Brooklyn Bro” of the month. Adam has worked extensively in the NYC wedding circuit and shares some tips on choosing the right band for your wedding. Here are Adam’s tips on how to choose the best band for your wedding.
There are wedding bands and bands that play weddings. The former performs primarily at weddings on the weekends. The latter plays together regularly at weddings and private parties, but they may also write, produce, and perform original music together. Choosing a band that has a camaraderie due to performing and creating music together will not only be reliable and perform technically well, but will inspire your guests to get out of their seats and onto the dance floor. See them perform, meet the players, get to know your band starting with the musicians themselves.
Unless you want to have a swing-style big band, the days of enormous wedding orchestras are obsolete. All you need is a band with a smoking rhythm section throwing it down and lighting it up. If the bass player and the drummer are locked together like brothers-in-arms low-crawling in the mud behind enemy lines, if the keyboardist has the sounds and touch to build a rich, textured palette of color, if the guitarist is a rhythmic freight train and soloing sorcerer inciting the inner rock stardom of each of your guests, then you have the foundation laid for an uncompromising, unrelenting dance set sure to be spoken of for years to come.
You can take the most savory ingredients and throw them together in a pot, but if you don’t have that old-fashioned natural instinct like Grandma behind a pot of Sunday sauce, you just don’t know what to expect. Who is running the band at your wedding? The person you deal with should be the bandleader, not a corporate salesman, and the bandleader should be a true performing member of the band. He or she must understand the music in the first person to create and reflect the energy of the audience. The band must look beyond the stage and become united with the people, moving together, living in the music as one singular entity.
Follow your instincts. Remember what made you fall in love with music in the first place, whether is was singing into your hairbrush, or falling asleep with your Walkman on. Music means something to you – it is that knowing friend, that place of bared emotion. Find a band that performs not notes but inspiration – your party will rock.
You can check out 45 Riots performance schedule at:
Happy Friday! I am delighted to share with you something we have been concocting for a little bit now, a Brooklyn Bros “column” in our blog posts. These gentlemen of talent will be sharing their vast expertize and answering your questions as well. Please warmly welcome our first Brooklyn Bro blogger wedding mixologist (music, not booze!) James Dier, otherwise known as $mall ¢hange.
Hello Brooklyn Betrothed enthusiasts! Since this is my first post as part of a series on music tips for your wedding, lets start with the beginning of the party. And while the focus on music during cocktail hour isn’t as central as when you’re dancing later, there’s no reason you should settle for mediocrity. Like all the details of your event, music adds an important vibe to set the tone for your guests.
With the cocktail hour, people are talking and wanting to catch up, so let’s use a little common sense here. Folks need to hear the music, but most importantly they still need to hear each other. So make sure your DJ is Def as opposed to being deaf, and the volume isn’t over the top. It’s about setting a nice background level so the music is subtly inspiring the environment without taking over. It’s like seasoning food. You find that balance that works.
But just because they’re relaxing doesn’t mean folks need to fall asleep. There’s a tendency to play really mellow stuff, and of course that’s appropriate. But that doesn’t need to be the only vibe here. Unless you’re looking for a specific ‘theme’, it’s good to mix it up. (Though I have DJed ‘jazz age’ and ‘yatch rock’ themed cocktail hours for events — themes can be a fun idea too!)
Alternate jazz or vocal selections with other genres like rock, soul, RnB, and even (mellower) hip hop or electronic music. Try both old and new tunes. Put in slower and faster tracks so the tempo and vibe is moving around. I feel this helps move the night along. If you play slow music for hours, by the time people are ready to dance they almost feel ‘tired’. It’s subtle, but I like peppering slower selections with some tracks that have a little more energy (again not overpowering on the volume). Then when it’s time to dance they a bit more ‘ready’ so to speak.
Also with cocktail and dinner, since its background music, why resort to playing things that everyone knows? As we all know with certain wedding ‘standards’, sometimes what we know can make us groan. Yes, DJing a wedding isn’t all about ‘educating’ folks… but you don’t need to serve them the obvious velveeta either. Throw in some time tested standards and do a little research on some fresh sounds. Experiment making some playlists. Find the tracks that really speak to you, and then arrange in an order so they flow together. It’s actually quite fun to do if you have the time. And if folks are there to celebrate your love, why not share your personal tastes? Especially if music is a passion for you.
Here’s some tunes that I’ve enjoyed playing at weddings or just to listen to in general… many of these are a little obscure, so remember you can curate your own playlist to be as well know (or underground) as you want it to be. Cheers, and hope you enjoy the tracks… Continue reading